{"id":1747,"date":"2025-03-15T09:21:07","date_gmt":"2025-03-15T14:21:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/?p=1747"},"modified":"2025-03-15T09:21:07","modified_gmt":"2025-03-15T14:21:07","slug":"discerning-a-call","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/?p=1747","title":{"rendered":"Discerning a Call"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">By Rob Vugrnick<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Though I now attend the Cleveland Meeting, since I reside in Cleveland, I still receive light and encouragement from reading the weekly Milwaukee meeting announcements and other Meeting notes&nbsp; and email talk.&nbsp; I write this article, not for myself, but hopefully share something that will be relatable to others on this important topic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Years ago, I was sure I had a calling from God or as some may say the Divine.&nbsp; I based my education on that calling, and worked to follow it truthfully and I hoped faithfully.&nbsp; As I started doing that work, something in myself was not right.&nbsp; I had images of what I needed to be, what I needed to believe, and how I needed to act.&nbsp; I wanted to be like the group of believers I was part of, I wanted to help them sincerely, work with them, and I did love them as I think many of them loved me.&nbsp; But life paths are not perfect or easy and as a young person, I struggled with my beliefs, some with the work, and even with my own character and integrity because I was not brave enough to share with them how I really felt or what I really thought.&nbsp; It became very clear to me,&nbsp; (I discerned),&nbsp; that I was not called for the path I was on, so I made a change not knowing where it would lead. I believe this is one of the best decisions I ever made in my life&nbsp; though it was easier since I was young and single at the time and only had to worry about myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I could share more specifics and sometimes I do with people but this writing is to focus on finding a sense of my calling.&nbsp; I tried many things and&nbsp; it took me many years to find employment direction.&nbsp; I had some left over faith at this time and I still often prayed for my future and the kind of life I hoped for.&nbsp; As a single person, not in a relationship at the time, I often prayed that I wanted to be a parent.&nbsp; I looked at people who had kids, and a family, and I longed to have one of my own.&nbsp; I honestly thought I might never get married or have a child, but I did want to. &nbsp; I have a sense now&nbsp; that this hoping and longing itself is a calling.&nbsp; For me.&nbsp; my prayer was answered, I did get married with a marriage that did not last, but it produced my son and I did become a parent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Since my son was an answer to a prayer, I think I was called to be a good parent.&nbsp; Believe me, I have not been perfect and would do some things differently.&nbsp; I feel more lucky than accomplished with how my parenting turned out. &nbsp; I will let my son be the witness on how I handle the calling to be a father.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">During recent&nbsp; years I have had different callings I felt.&nbsp; Mostly that I needed to do more to help those in need or find ways to impact another person&#8217;s life for the better.&nbsp; This calling has been a quiet voice through the years, I would try to find ways to help but mostly failed on doing anything significant. &nbsp; During latter years this calling seems to have gotten louder and louder to almost scream at me. Of course this could be my mental health going,&nbsp; or simply my conscience reflecting on&nbsp; how I did not do enough in the past.&nbsp; Whatever it is,&nbsp; the calling is there,&nbsp; and I think I am trying to respond.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It was at the Milwaukee Meeting worship, when the words for&nbsp; the Color Of Peace poem came into my mind.&nbsp; I mention this now because I believe I have a calling to be a peacemaker.&nbsp; I have not and do not expect to have a huge impact, but I am trying to follow this calling in whatever years I have left. This may not benefit the world, but it does benefit me, because it gives me a reason to live,&nbsp; and even makes me feel more alive.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I often go to a weekly Peace vigil in Cleveland with signs held high, and have had difficult conversations with folks who do not agree on the Mideast conflicts in particular.&nbsp; I even made <strong>peace in my own mind<\/strong> with&nbsp; the Palestinian and Israeli issues, after struggling and listening to so much rhetoric from both sides of this tragic conflict. &nbsp; I found peace through the works of past president Jimmy Carter. I can be a peacemaker by suggesting his books; Palestine Peace Not Apartheid, and We Can Have Peace In The Holy Land.&nbsp; This past president\u2019s calling has made my small one, so much easier, and as his books have helped me as&nbsp; they can also help others.&nbsp; I am just starting to get involved with migration issues&nbsp; and my undocumented neighbors as I like to call them.&nbsp; I hope I can do a little there,&nbsp; as we will see. A calling can be for a group as well as an individual.&nbsp; Our Cleveland Meeting is searching for something we can do better as a group and I know we are listening to the Divine for direction.&nbsp; Driving to the Peace Vigil today, I was wondering why we are having a bit of difficulty choosing something to work on as a Meeting.&nbsp; Is it because the Spirit is not speaking, are we not listening, or is it something else? &nbsp; Hold us in the light as we seek the answer.&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I believe I have a calling to be a peacemaker<\/p>\n<p>Photo by Sebbi Strauch from Pixabay<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":1755,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[136,137],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1747","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-136","category-march-2025"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1747","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1747"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1747\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1763,"href":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1747\/revisions\/1763"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/1755"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1747"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1747"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1747"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}