{"id":1767,"date":"2025-03-15T09:23:59","date_gmt":"2025-03-15T14:23:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/?p=1767"},"modified":"2025-03-15T09:23:59","modified_gmt":"2025-03-15T14:23:59","slug":"30-lonely-but-beautiful-actions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/?p=1767","title":{"rendered":"30 Lonely but Beautiful Actions"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>By Garrett Bucks<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>A preface: I wrote this for people who, like me, have spent much of the past few weeks hoping that somebody else would do something bolder in this political movement.&nbsp;<\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.cbsnews.com\/news\/trump-approval-opinion-poll-2025-2-9\/\"><em>We are downtrodden because we\u2019re full of rage and heartbreak, but the polls tell us that our neighbors don\u2019t share those feelings.<\/em><\/a><em>&nbsp;We realize we\u2019re seeing something that so many aren\u2019t, but we\u2019re not sure how to bridge the gap. We have wished (appropriately) for bravery from our media, from elected Democrats, from public officials in general. However fair those wishes are, they come with a risk: that we miss the opportunity to be the lonely voice for justice in our own community, the person who makes it a little easier for a second and third and fourth lonely voice to start perking up by our side.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>I don\u2019t pretend that all it takes for a social movement to succeed is a bunch of individuals throwing the activist equivalent of spaghetti at so many isolated walls. Nothing I offer here will be enough. And yet, so many of us are waiting for something we can join, which presents a true opportunity to be the first person in your circle welcoming fellow travelers into halting, shaky, earnest action.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Finally, I\u2019m certain that not all of these ideas are applicable to your situation. You\u2019re tired. You\u2019re busy. You\u2019re sick. You don\u2019t have a robust social network. You have anxiety about putting yourself out there. Those are all real. And also, my hope isn\u2019t that every one of these is for you, but that a few might be. And if none fit the bill, what an opportunity: I\u2019d love to hear your idea for what you and others could do.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Enough scene-setting. Here are some ideas. In list form, but there\u2019s a narrative if you\u2019re looking for it. They\u2019re all offered with love:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>The next time you read an article about how USAID or the Consumer Finance Protection Bureau or the Department of Education is being attacked, remember that no matter how impactful the agency, movements don\u2019t coalesce around acronyms\u2013 they are always about empathy for each other. Take a few minutes to research a specific program administered by those agencies that help people, and ring the alarm for everybody you know. Stop saying \u201cTrump and Musk are the worst\u201d and practice saying things like\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.wired.com\/story\/the-usaid-shutdown-puts-millions-of-african-lives-at-risk\/\">\u201cTrump and Musk are sentencing millions of AIDS patients to death\u201d<\/a>\u00a0or\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/democrats.org\/news\/%F0%9F%9A%A8cfpb-put-19-7b-back-in-americans-pockets-now-trump-and-his-corrupt-billionaire-cabinet-want-to-shut-it-down\/?utm_source=substack&amp;utm_medium=email\">\u201cTrump and Musk want credit card companies to rip us off\u201d<\/a>\u00a0or \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.edweek.org\/policy-politics\/educators-reeling-as-trump-takes-sledgehammer-to-education-department-contracts\/2025\/02\">Trump and Musk just cut mental health and math tutoring resources for your kids\u2019 school.\u201d<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>When friends or colleagues or grocery clerks ask you how you\u2019re doing, don\u2019t say, \u201cfine.\u201d Instead, answer with\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.nbcnews.com\/politics\/donald-trump\/nonprofits-say-still-cant-access-federal-funds-rulings-blocking-trumps-rcna190491\">\u201cI\u2019m so mad because dialysis patients aren\u2019t getting treatment and Head Start programs have to close because Trump cut off their funding and he\u2019s lying about it.\u201d<\/a>\u00a0It is clunky and silly, yes, but if you are in fact angry, it is also entirely honest. You weren\u2019t really \u201cfine\u201d anyway.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/crimethinc.com\/2017\/07\/18\/a-field-guide-to-wheatpasting-everything-you-need-to-know-to-blanket-the-world-in-posters\">Learn to wheatpaste.<\/a>\u00a0Print out signs. Make the messages big.\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.mississippifreepress.org\/what-trumps-plan-to-abolish-the-department-of-education-would-mean-for-mississippi\/?utm_content=buffere9899&amp;utm_medium=social&amp;utm_source=bufferapp.com&amp;utm_campaign=bufferbsky\">\u201cTrump and Musk hate children\u201d<\/a>\u00a0or \u201c<a href=\"https:\/\/www.cnn.com\/2025\/01\/26\/climate\/trump-environmental-justice-rural-poor-communities\/index.html\">Trump and Musk are screwing over working people\u201d<\/a>\u00a0or\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/popular.info\/p\/trump-maintains-funding-freeze-at?utm_source=substack&amp;utm_medium=email\">\u201cTrump and Musk want sick people to die\u201d\u00a0<\/a>Add a\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.adobe.com\/express\/feature\/image\/qr-code-generator\">QR code\u00a0<\/a>and link to articles that reinforce the sentiment. Add a second code that will\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/indivisible.org\/coup\">help passersby take action<\/a>, or perhaps even offer a date and time for a community meeting that you\u2019re hosting. Hang up the signs across your region\u2014 rural areas, cities and suburbs. Go to a small town\u2019s Main Street and put signs on every corner:\u00a0\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/rleonard.substack.com\/p\/trump-and-musk-kill-programs-that?utm_source=post-email-title&amp;publication_id=990286&amp;post_id=156629448&amp;utm_campaign=email-post-title&amp;isFreemail=true&amp;r=r2wm&amp;triedRedirect=true&amp;utm_medium=email\">\u201cTrump and Musk are killing small businesses.\u201d\u00a0<\/a>It\u2019s true, by the way, and small businesses should know about it.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Print out little stickers. Write a message on them. Put them up on poles, in restrooms, at gas stations. Make them pithy, but focus on the person you might imagine reading it. Don\u2019t lead with \u201cTrump and Musk are fascists\u201d however true that might be. The people for whom that message is appealing are already with us. Instead, say \u201cTrump and Musk don\u2019t care about you.\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Buy some chalk. Put it in your bag. Find a good spot and write in big bold letters \u201cTrump and Musk look out for billionaires. Who is looking out for you?\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Go to a Federal Building.\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/bsky.app\/profile\/alexwinter.com\/post\/3lhtgcxom5c23\">Go to a Tesla dealership<\/a>. Stand on a\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/overpasslightbrigade.org\/\">highway overpass.<\/a>Hold a lonely cardboard sign for an hour. Take a picture. Send it to everybody you know. Post it on social media. Yes, in a try-hard, show-offy, circa-2020 way. You\u2019re not doing it for do-gooder credibility this time around (more on that in a bit). You want others to know that somebody is out there, that you too can be out there. Tell your friends that it felt inconsequential and awkward but that you\u2019ll be back there next week, at the same time, and that you\u2019d love it if they could join you.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>The bigger protests are likely coming for your region, I promise. In the meantime, if you have the flexibility, find a way to D.C. Be like the woman from Alabama profiled\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.hamiltonnolan.com\/p\/revolution-town\">in this lovely, bittersweet essay<\/a>. Do you know how many protests are happening in Washington right now? So many.\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.movementinfrastructureproject.org\/calendar\">Show up at them.<\/a>\u00a0Meet the other people going to the protests (it\u2019s still a tinier crowd than it should be). Meet the people organizing the protests. Ask how you can help.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Show up for and support other people\u2019s efforts, even when you\u2019re skeptical about them (I bet that you\u2019re skeptical about many of the items on this list! I am too! But we should do some of them regardless!). Here\u2019s another example:\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/generalstrikeus.com\/aboutus\">There\u2019s currently a social-media driven call for a general strike.\u00a0<\/a>I\u2019m nervous that it\u2019s not the best approach, because I believe that successful general strikes require more coordination with labor movements and less with online influencers, but I could be wrong. And even if I\u2019m right, the general strike proclaimers are trying! So I\u2019m going to sign their strike card, and spread the word about what they\u2019re doing. Because I don\u2019t care about being right in this moment. I just want more people giving a damn and trying.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Call up the organization closest to you that supports your queer and trans neighbors, your undocumented neighbors, your homeless neighbors, your neighbors seeking abortions. Thank them for their work. Ask what they need right now.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>If the organization needs volunteers, ask a friend to go with you to volunteer.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>If the organization needs money, text five friends and say \u201cI\u2019m donating to _____ org and I\u2019d like you to do so as well.\u201d Think about something that brings you joy\u2014 baking or making music or writing strident essays on the Internet or dancing. Ask yourself, \u201ccould that be a fundraiser?\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Make cookies and deliver them to your neighbors. Ask if they\u2019d be up to come to your house for coffee or a happy hour. Have the topic be, \u201cWho in your life are you most worried about right now? What support do they need?\u201d As neighbors, brainstorm\u00a0what you all can do to care for everybody whose name came up around the circle.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Put up a little table outside of a grocery store with a sign that says, \u201cHave your grocery bills come down? Why not?\u201d When people come to talk to you, give them instructions on how to call their Congresspeople right now. Listen to the voice in your head that says \u201cnobody does that,\u201d and then remember that actually conservatives have long done exactly that, and it\u2019s been a big reason\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2016\/10\/17\/us\/the-california-ballot-measure-that-inspired-a-tax-revolt.html?unlocked_article_code=1.wU4.qhdS.HNJVvdyb0KA7&amp;smid=url-share\">why they won some of their largest victories.<\/a>\u00a0You may be asked to leave. Do so politely. Go to another store.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Throw the best damn party you can imagine. Make it the party you\u2019d like to attend. Do you like to bowl? Listen to death metal? Knit and sip tea? Dance through the night? Have a few beers at a kid friendly brewery while your children run about the place? Then let the party be about that thing, the thing you love. Put the word out so that people who also love that thing find about it. Get to know them. Tell them that the only cost of admission is you want ten minutes to speak about the actions they can take against Trump right now.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Speaking of Congress, yes keep calling them. Be nice to their staff, but don\u2019t give a lick that\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.axios.com\/2025\/02\/12\/democrats-jeffries-move-on-indivisible-trump\">Congressional Democrats are annoyed<\/a>\u00a0that constituents are lighting up their lines. If you are represented by a Republican, pick a specific policy that is hurting people in your district and tell them you disagree with their stance on the issue. If you are represented by a Democrat, tell them (politely, for the person who is answering the phone is overworked and underpaid) that they can shut down the government. The current funding deal is set to expire on March 14th. Tell them that they can hold sit-ins, or filibuster on the floor, or run non-stop press conferences with constituents whose services are already at risk. Pick a request and keep asking.\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/docs.google.com\/document\/d\/1r-gyz1mEDjZQ_gzFE-s5LN_0vvFSrdmhnXGg8Aa9L_U\/edit?tab=t.0\">Use this template.<\/a>\u00a0It\u2019s good.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Text a few friends. Ask them, \u201cCan we hold each other accountable to keep calling our reps? I keep forgetting to do it every day.\u201d Make a text chain. Be kind to each other. Laugh a bunch. Celebrate the hell out each day\u2019s Sisyphean-feeling calls. Ask how everybody\u2019s doing, every single day.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>A few days later, go back to the text chain. Ask, \u201chas there been any movement from those elected officials we\u2019ve been texting? Should we escalate? Should we consider sitting in at their local office? What would we need to know to do so?\u201d<a href=\"https:\/\/www.amnesty.org\/en\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/02\/ACT1074712024ENGLISH.pdf\">Start planning.\u00a0<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Reach out to friends with care-giving responsibilities: for kids, for grand-kids, for elders. Ask them, \u201cHey, if a few of us were to watch your kids or run groceries to your dad tomorrow afternoon, what political action could you take? Would you spend some time researching what\u2019s happening? Would you volunteer? Would you call? Would you hold your lonely sign?\u201d Or alternately, if you\u2019re somebody with care-giving responsibilities, take the risk of asking somebody\u2014 perhaps somebody who is a loose connection but that you want to get to know better\u2014 for help.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/chopwoodcarrywaterdailyactions.substack.com\/p\/chop-wood-carry-water-211-ff0\">Subscribe to a newsletter\u00a0<\/a>that will keep the action alerts and the instructions about \u201cwhat you can do\u201d coming long after you forget about this list. Ignore, for the moment, whether you\u2019re further to the left or further to the center than the list compiler. What matters is that there is always something to do, and blessed people have made it their life\u2019s work to help make it easier for you. Every once in a while, send the action alert compilers a note. Tell them thank you. Ask if they need any help.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Recognize that so many of the boycotts whirling around the internet are probably too diffused and unorganized to truly bend the arc of history, but that they do matter, both for keeping the pressure on these cowardly profit-seeking, fascist-knee bending corporations,\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/eboyle.substack.com\/p\/we-dont-have-to-shop-there-actually\">but also for the way they build intentionality and focus into our lives.<\/a>\u00a0Pick a company that\u2019s been hard for you to boycott but that you\u2019ve been tempted to quit\u2013 Target perhaps, or Meta, or Amazon. Start listing all the reasons why it\u2019s hard. Text a friend \u201chey, I\u2019d like to quit _____ but I can\u2019t. Can you help me brainstorm how to make that change?\u201d\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.mutualaidhub.org\/\">Research mutual aid efforts in your area.<\/a>\u00a0If there isn\u2019t one near you,\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/afsc.org\/news\/how-create-mutual-aid-network\">research how to start one.\u00a0<\/a>Start showing up for their meal drop offs or their trash pick-ups or whatever it is that they\u2019re doing. Discover that it\u2019s<a href=\"https:\/\/blockclubchicago.org\/2022\/11\/24\/at-rogers-park-tent-city-housed-and-unhoused-gather-for-new-tradition-weekly-chili-night\/\">\u00a0simpler<\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/DF5nHL7J6ko\/\">more fun\u00a0<\/a>than you imagined. When people ask you how you\u2019re doing, say \u201cI\u2019m trying a new thing\u2013 I\u2019m getting involved with ______ mutual aid, have you heard of it?\u201d\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>If you\u2019re a parent, send a letter to your kids school.\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/thewhitepages.net\/p\/how-parents-can-support-educators\">Tell them thanks, and then ask how you can support them.<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Regardless of whether you\u2019re a parent, go to a school board meeting. During public comment, reiterate how much you value:<ol><li>The district remaining a safe and welcoming place for queer and trans students.<\/li><\/ol><ol><li>The school district not cooperating with ICE.<\/li><\/ol>\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>The school continuing to teach accurate representations of U.S. history, multiculturalism and respect for all students\u2019 backgrounds.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>When you wonder \u201cwhat right do I have to go to a school board if my topic isn\u2019t on the agenda\u201d remember those Moms For Liberty who caused all of that school board chaos a few summers ago\u2026 what right did they have to do so? And yet, there they were, creating a political moment out of nothing. You\u2019re showing up for something real, something that matters. Your school board deserves to hear from you.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Remember that fascists hate unions, and one of the reasons why they\u2019re winning is that union density is at an all time low. If your workplace has a union, throw yourself into it. If your workplace doesn\u2019t, there are a whole bunch of people\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/workerorganizing.org\/\">who would like to help you start one.\u00a0<\/a>If you don\u2019t have a traditional workplace (like me), you might be surprised that there are\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/nwu.org\">unions<\/a>\u00a0for\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.domesticworkers.org\/\">us<\/a>\u00a0as\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/gigworkersrising.org\/\">well<\/a>. Join. Agitate. Know that we won\u2019t turn the tide if we can\u2019t get union density back in the double digits.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>If you know and love a federal worker, particularly in a targeted agency, do something kind for them. If you\u2019re a federal worker, particularly in a targeted agency, tell us what you need and how you\u2019re doing.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Ask yourself how much of your political engagement is confined to spaces where everybody else is already aware of and angry about the same things that you are. Ask yourself, gently, \u201cShould I just complain to the same friends?\u201d \u201cDo I need to spend all this time on Bluesky?\u201d \u201cWhy am I only reading authors who tell me how bad everything is but not what we can do in response?\u201d Instead, consider\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/wagingnonviolence.org\/2025\/02\/we-are-stronger-than-we-think\/\">spending more time with folks\u00a0<\/a>who are highlighting everything that\u2019s already being built and reminding us of how much power we actually have. I\u2019m not saying that your time should be spent debating and getting in screaming matches with the most MAGA-loving person in your vicinity. Remember that most of your neighbors aren\u2019t paying attention one way or another. This moment is about spreading the word: people are being hurt, and we should stand in opposition.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Again, whatever you do: broadcast it. It doesn\u2019t have to be on social media, but that\u2019s fine, too. Is that performative? Absolutely, but you\u2019re not doing it for yourself. You\u2019re doing it to model it for somebody else. Do you know why human beings attend artistic performances? To understand ourselves better through somebody else \u201cperforming\u201d humanity in front of us. First comes the performance, then comes the repetition, then comes the integration into all of our lives.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Look back at this list. Think about the idea that you rolled your eyes at the hardest, the one that seemed least applicable or most scary to you. Look at it again. Ask yourself not \u201cwhy can\u2019t I do that?\u201d but \u201cwhat support would I need to do it?\u201d Ask who in your life might be able to provide that support. Reach out to that person and say, \u201cI have a crazy idea, but I need your help.\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>If you don\u2019t have anybody to reach out to, reach out to me. Really. I\u2019m just a stranger on the Internet. I\u2019m busy too. I\u2019m balancing multiple day jobs and a couple kids and piles of laundry that never disappear. I may take a while to get back to you. But I will. I won\u2019t have all the perfect answers, but I\u2019ll listen to you. My role, if you need it, isn\u2019t necessarily to solve your problems. It\u2019s to help you practice reaching out to others for support.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p>Editor Note:&nbsp; This article first appeared in Substack by the author on his site and is reprinted with his permission: Garrett from The White Pages &nbsp;<a href=\"mailto:thewhitepages@substack.com\">thewhitepages@substack.com<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I wrote this for people who, (are) hoping that somebody else would do something bolder in this political movement<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":1769,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[136,137],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1767","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-136","category-march-2025"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1767","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1767"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1767\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1828,"href":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1767\/revisions\/1828"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/1769"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1767"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1767"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shareletter.milwaukeequakers.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1767"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}